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I have a
right to all those good times that I have
longed for all these years and didn't get.
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I have a
right to joy in this life, right here, right
now — not just a momentary rush of euphoria
but something more substantive.
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I have a
right to relax and have fun in a
nonalcoholic and nondestructive way.
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I have a
right to actively pursue people, places, and
situations that will help me in achieving a
good life.
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I have the
right to say no whenever I feel something is
not safe or I am not ready.
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I have a
right to not participate in either the
active or passive "crazy-making" behavior of
parents, of siblings, and of others.
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I have a
right to take calculated risks and to
experiment with new strategies.
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I have a
right to change my tune, my strategy, and my
funny equations.
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I have a
right to 'mess up'; to make mistakes, to
'blow it', to disappoint myself, and to fall
short of the mark.
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I have a
right to leave the company of people who
deliberately or inadvertently put me down,
lay a guilt trip on me, manipulate or
humiliate me, including my alcoholic parent,
my nonalcoholic parent, or any other member
of my family.
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I have a
right to put an end to conversations with
people who make me feel put down and
humiliated.
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I have a
right to
all my feelings.
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I have a
right to trust my feelings, my judgment, my
hunches, my intuition.
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I have a
right to develop myself as a whole person
emotionally, spiritually, mentally,
physically, and psychologically.
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I have a
right to express all my feelings in a
nondestructive way and at a safe time and
place.
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I have a
right to as much time as I need to
experiment with this new information and
these new ideas and to initiate changes in
my life.
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I have a
right to sort out the bill of goods my
parents sold me — to take the acceptable and
dump the unacceptable.
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I have a
right to a mentally healthy, sane way of
existence, though it will deviate in part,
or all, from my parents' prescribed
philosophy of life.
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I have a
right to carve out my place in this world.
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I have a
right to follow any of the above rights, to
live my life the way I want to, and not wait
until my alcoholic parent gets well, gets
happy, seeks help, or admits there is a
problem.