Letter To The ACA Newcomer
Dear Newcomer,
Many
new people come into Adult Children meetings every day who
are distressed, feel that something is missing, and have
unresolved issues in their lives. Some of you come from
other 12 Step programs; for many, this is your first
experience with a 12 Step group.
Whatever your problem, there is someone here who has
experienced it before. We all come from homes where
alcoholism and/or dysfunction have affected our lives. As
one woman put it during her first meeting, "When I heard
'The Problem' read, I knew that finally I had found
others like myself and that I was home, at last."
Many of us needed to understand what happened to us as
children. We need our reality validated — that there really
was a problem... that it really wasn't just our imagination!
We need to share "what happened" but also "what's happening
right now" in a Loving, Listening environment. We need to
see that we sometimes recreate what happened to us as
children — now in the present — in our relationships, jobs,
and internal Lives. Above all, we have the opportunity to
see that we can change our unhealthy thinking and patterns,
act more than react, and get on with our lives as we heal
ourselves in an atmosphere of Loving, mutual support.
If
we keep coming back to ACA meetings, we find tools and
resources that help us in healing, growing, and becoming
happy people. Some of these tools are:
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The
Twelve Steps,
Twelve Traditions,
The Problem (also known as the Laundry List),
Solution and
12 Promises.
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The
fellowship: participation in meetings, coffee and
conversation after the meeting, etc.
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Reading and
writing
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The
telephone
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The care of
a higher power of your own understanding.
Welcome home and keep coming back!
Very truly yours,
An Oldtimer |